To prologue or not to prologue

Okay, my editor brought up the idea that I should start my third novel with some kind of prologue, just to remind readers of what has happened. I don't know if I can...

See, I've never been the prologue type. I hate books that do too much prologue or too many flashbacks. I think they detract from the story and insult the reader. I mean, if you're reading and enjoying my books, I do expect a few things:
1. I expect you to remember who the main characters are.
2. I expect you to understand what's happened so far (where reasonable, I know there's open questions in the first two)
3. I expect you would read the books in order.

Maybe I'm a mean writer, but I don't expect you to start on the third book. And if you do start at the third, I expect you to be confused. I write in a continuous series for crying out loud. I can't spend half of the book spelling everything out that's already in the first two... then the books would be too large to print.

I did see her point with the last one so I added in a glossary of terms and a list of characters. I plan on doing the same with the third. So if a reader can't remember who someone is, they can choose to look it up in the appendix. Or they can choose to continue the story without being pulled out of the moment by some long explanation or flashback.

Don't get me wrong, I do flashbacks when they help the story. There are a couple in Destiny Fulfilled, but they're short and add to the story. They explain the drama between the two main characters of Fulfilled, but they're certainly not long or obtrusive. They don't happen back to back and they are each less than a page.

So, what's a writer to do? I understand her point, but I won't do long flashbacks, explanations, or prologues and risk ruining the story in progress... Well, I compromise. I'm going to add part of the last chapter of Destiny Found to Destiny Fulfilled to kind of remind the reader where I left off. And, maybe... -sigh- I'll add in a few more descriptions about the characters...

But first, I have to finish the book and so far the feedback on the rough draft has been great. Maybe this one will turn out to be the masterpiece I'm always trying for. But, really, I'm too hard on myself. And this isn't the last of  me. Sebastian still wants his story told and the kids come next. I've already written the first chapter of Aidan's story.... for those who don't know -snicker- that's the son of Samantha and Alastar. Samantha is the Queen of the Tuatha and she didn't know who she was until Alastar was sent to rescue her by her father, the previous King. Unfortunately, he meets an untimely demise in the first book and Sam becomes Queen. She's mated to Alastar, together they have Aidan and are fighting off the evil forces of Breas. Breas was slighted centuries ago and still holds a grudge....

See... I can do an explanation, but would you really want to break from the story to read that??

Confusion and befuddlement reign supreme on this issue and I'd love input. Writing Gods please help, LOL.

Still going at it,
Jennifer